This stops us from getting support through all of this struggle. We have judgement for all of that, and we are embarrassed to show that to others. I haven’t been doing the things I said I would, I’m struggling, I don’t like things about myself. Getting coaching or support from others: Most people avoid getting a coach, or getting real support from other people, because they are embarrassed to admit how their growth process looks.Imagine getting feedback from readers and more experienced writers who might help you get to the next level - most people cringe at the idea of showing their “embarrassing” writing to people who might judge them.

But even further, we resist getting feedback from people that might improve our writing, because we’re worried that the writing sucks.

Writing a book or blog: This one might be a bit obvious - you want to write, you might start writing, but the fear of embarrassment (or being judged) stops you from writing or making the writing public.

But first, let’s look at a few more examples where the fear of embarrassment stops people from growing: It’s that we could learn to see embarrassment as an integral part of the growth process. My belief is not that we should just get over that fear.

Fear of embarrassment will stop you from getting real growth and transformation. I’ve found that this is true no matter what you’re trying to learn. But they’re missing out on the biggest opportunity - feedback from people who can see things they can’t see.Īnd the thing getting in the way is fear of embarrassment. They’ll go to the climbing gym when no one is watching, or hang out in a corner hoping no one is looking. When people want to get better at climbing, they try to do it privately, so that no one can see them doing things badly.

A well-known climbing coach said that the biggest obstacle in the way of people’s growth as climbers is, basically, fear of embarrassment.

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